Archives for July 2013

Self-Help Question #4 ~ Do Friends Help? (part 2)

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What if you can’t avoid being around people who don’t support your commitment to habit change.  This sticky situation is today’s podcast topic. This episode includes an experiential exercise to support you in reaching your habit change goal.

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Links to resources mentioned in this podcast

List of more than 30 12-step and 12-step friendly self-help groups

List of non-12-step self-help groups

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Recovery International

Emotions Anonymous

 

Link between Schizophrenia and Marijuana Use

I want to pass on this article from a physician in the Department of Psychiatry at The Yale School of Medicine reporting on the link between marijuana use and mental illness. While everyone isn’t vulnerable, for those who are — marijuana can trigger serious problems.

 

Self-Help Question #4 ~ Do Friends Help? (part 1)

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Are you spending more time with people who participate in your problem habit with you – or with people who don’t? Holistic therapist and addiction specialist Michael Anne Conley discusses the role of self-help groups in supporting your changes. This episode includes an experiential exercise to support you in reaching your habit change goal.                                                 

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As Sick As Your Secrets?

At my recent family reunion, we celebrated two birthdays.

Everyone knows of the plan and it goes like this: It doesn’t look like anything special is in the works, but dessert is hidden, cards are quietly passed along for signing, gifts are stashed.

At one of the recent celebrations, we had begun to sing the birthday song when it was discovered the candle had been forgotten. “You didn’t hear that,” someone joked to the person of honor. Moments later, candle lit and in place, the cacophony of song joined the procession as the “surprise” unfolded.

No one is surprised. But it’s a secret — shhhhh, don’t tell!!!

There’s a saying, “You’re as sick as your secrets.”  But secrets designed for fun are worlds away from secrets that create distress. Many people live with secrets that create isolation, depression or worry. This [Read more…]

Zimmerman: when self-contact and self-management are lacking

Two people meet – one of them is unable to manage his own impulses.

Caught up in his own unboundedness, he does not stop himself, and his grandiosity unfolds into an enactment that can not be taken back.

A wise person once told me that if one had to choose, it’s far better to be the victim of another’s injustice than to be the perpetrator.

Even though anyone who has lost a loved one unjustly knows that inconsolable pain, even though each of us who has experienced the victim side can choose to deeply ask, without self-punishment, “is there something I could have done differently,” the truth is that perpetrators have to live with what they’ve done.

So George Zimmerman will live for the rest of his life with the fact that when it mattered the most, he was  [Read more…]

Self-Help Question #3 ~ What Consequences?

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What are the consequences of your problem habit?   In this episode, which includes an experiential exercise to support you in reaching your habit change goal, I discuss how to evaluate self-help support in light of your level of consequences.  Also click the SEND IT BUTTON in the box on the right sidebar and you’ll receive my self-assessment questionnaire, which is designed to help you explore your consequences.

other podcasts in this series

Are Self-Help Groups For You?

Self-Help Question #1: How Long A Puzzle

Self-Help Question #2: No Success Yet?

 

 

 

Walk in the question: what really causes obesity?

This video of Dr. Peter Attia at a TEDMED conference came across my screen – I think it’s such an important topic that I’m re-posting it here. He asks, “Is the “obesity crisis” just a disguise for a deeper problem?”

In so many ways we humans are inclined to play the blame game, whether we point the finger at ourselves or at others. Of course, everyone knows people who are fat brought this on themselves, right?

Not so fast. Our judgments divert us from more helpful explorations. We can instead, do what I call “walk in the question,” which means to let a question gather itself within us as we walk through our ordinary days, rather than coming so quick to judgment.  Let’s say perhaps that in this case, the question might be, “What is it within me that so easily disparages others who don’t meet my standards, what is it within me that wants to be healed of this judgment?”

Peter Attia discovered first-hand how blind our judgments makes us.

 

 

 

Self-Care First

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Self-care is a first step in self-help. In this episode, I keep it simple this week as a part of my own self care. To find out why, listen and practice an experiential exercise in self-contact.

For more support and reinforcement, click the SEND IT BUTTON in the box on the right sidebar and you’ll receive a self-assessment questionnaire and my free newsletter to start your path to transformation and freedom.

Self-Help Question #2 ~ No Success Yet?

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How long have you been trying to turn around your problem habit without success? Your answer might indicate whether and how self-help groups can serve you.  This episode includes an experiential exercise to support you in reaching your habit change goal. 

For more support and reinforcement, click the SEND IT BUTTON in the box on the right sidebar and you’ll receive a self-assessment questionnaire and my free newsletter to start your path to transformation and freedom.

Links to resources mentioned in this podcast:

Are Self-Help Groups For You?

How Long a Puzzle?