Archives for January 2012

Insight not enough for behavior change

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Insight isn’t enough to create behavior change, because personal growth starts at different level than what’s obvious on the surface. Habits Into Health host, Michael Anne Conley is a therapist who supports people seeking personal development and habit change. In this episode she guides listeners in understanding the benefits of a body-oriented, or somatic approach to changing behavior. This episode includes experiential opportunities for listeners to practice.

Four steps to support your changes

“What is exact change?”
– Mr. Spock to Admiral Kirk
Star Trek 4: The Voyage Home

By Michael Anne Conley, LMFT

In The Voyage Home, Spock’s question is an inside joke, foretelling of a 23rd Century future in which people don’t use cash to get around town. When we use our Clipper cards today, only 25 years after the movie was released, we recognize that some things don’t take centuries to change.

On personal level, though, Spock asks the ultimate question posed by everyone who seeks self-improvement:  What is the exact change I can create for my life?

The New Year is such a natural time to make some new choices. After all, you made it through the holidays, hopefully better than you thought you would. You survived the guests or being a guest, shopping lines, the return lines and all the food. [Read more…]

Working through the body

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In orienting listeners to a different way of approaching habit change, Habits Into Health host, Michael Anne Conley explores the differences between different frameworks for body-oriented work. This differs from many approaches to personal development. This episode includes an experiential exercise to support listeners in practicing.

Honoring your privacy

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When people are working on personal growth, it brings up vulnerability. As a therapist, Habits Into Health host Michael Anne Conley is sensitive to peoples’ need for privacy. In this episode she shares her perspective about the value of privacy, especially in online settings and she invites listeners who contribute to her website to take care of themselves. This episode includes an experiential exercise to support listeners in their quest for habit change.

Try kindness for a change

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The words “bad” and “habit” are linked in a way that is unfriendly – and not helpful when it comes to problem habits, addiction issues and personal growth. In this show, I share an approach to change that invites kindness rather than criticism. This episode includes experiential exercises.

To explore more, click the SEND IT button in the box on the right sidebar and I’ll send you a self-assessment questionnaire that I developed in my years of working as a holistic therapist and addiction specialist.  I’ll also send you my free newsletter to reinforce your growth.

Motivation From Ahead

The turn of every year is a big one, especially for those of us who seek self-improvement anyway. Sometimes motivation comes from behind, pushing us to make some changes. The winter holidays, where there can be an excess in food, drink and social activities that seem more like “have to’s” than “want to’s” (that office holiday party? The visit to or from the relatives from hell?).

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If this sounds familiar take heart. First of all, you survived! And you can use your experiences as information for the future. Yea! Is this the last time you’ll agree to manage that office holiday party?  Do you now know that staying in a hotel will serve you more than staying with those relatives (or arranging for their hotel stay), even if it costs more?

I get lots of calls in January from people who are deciding that this was the last holiday where they’ll overdrink and overeat or overdo or over-something. Is now the time you’ll start to deal with some habit that’s been creating problems for yourself or others? Is this your year to really stop smoking (and I don’t mean just nicotine).

Motivation from behind may not feel good, because we’re dealing with the consequences of our choices. So be kind to yourself. The Dalai Lama, one of my most favorite people I’ve never met, says in his book The Art of Happiness (I’m paraphrasing here), if you do something and it makes you happy, do it more. If you do something and it makes you unhappy, stop doing it.

Can be easier said than done – so instead of motivation from behind, try motivation from ahead. Here’s what it looks like:

Is this your year to feel the thrill of saying no to things you usually say, “yes” to?
Imagine how great it will feel to hand over the management of the next office party to someone else for a change. I can feel deep breaths all over the world on that one.

Consider the relief that will come when you never, ever, ever again, get behind the driver’s seat and have to look over your shoulder to see if a DUI is in the cards. I know so many people who feel absolutely ecstatic about this one.

If there’s one new year’s resolution to choose, make it a commitment to choosing motivation for what you want to feel when you’ve said goodbye to something that no longer serves!

Holistic Recovery From Problem Habits & Addictions

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Does a habit or addiction have you in its grip? In this podcast program, I introduce my 21st century approaches to transformation and freedom. This  episode includes experiential exercises to support you in meeting your goals. 

To explore more, click the SEND IT button in the box on the right sidebar and I’ll send you a self-assessment questionnaire that I developed in my years of working as an holistic therapist and addiction specialist.  I’ll also send you my free newsletter to reinforce your intentions.